Property Damage!!!

Property Damage!!!

I just had a Facebook conversation with a bunch of people about women breaking the windows out of  a mans car after they have broken up. I got some interesting point of views there, some comedy and some emotional truths so I wanted to sum them up here. Thank you to Mz. Kewe of JuneBug Talk for starting this conversation and giving me the inspiration.

During the talk I did learn something about men. Men cherish things that they can control or that they think will not desert them. A guy chimed in and said that a car will not betray you like a woman. They also reminded us that they do love us as much as that car but when we change, they change. The car never changes. If we never changed our behavior from positive to negative we would not be deserted by our man or mistreated.

BUT what about when we don’t change? What about when we are consistent and supportive and loving and caring and blah blah blah. Well think about it like this… Men mistreat their cars, or Xbox or Shoes or whatever it is that they seem to cherish more than us. Like not getting an oil change, or beating on the Xbox when it doesn’t play right, but does the Xbox complain? Does it take the games and leave? Does it hit back? No! So on that note, the relationship continues as well as it did before the Xbox got hit. Outside of the physical, a man may never tell an Xbox that it loves it. Women thrive on those types of verbal reminders of affection. This is the difference. Women react to mistreatment, and lack of love, some more than others and without a healthy way of working out those problems then a relationship must end. Just a note: physical abuse means a relationship must end. No Questions.

Something else that the guys said was that it really pisses them off when their property is damaged by crazy women. Of course. A woman would feel the same way if the roles were reversed. Some men even jokingly said that they would resort to violence! It was funny but it was the truth, some men would be so furious that if they caught up to you they would surely try to kill you.

The conclusion I came to is something that I think we all know: When relationships have to be over, no matter when, where, how or why, we must be adult about it. Defacing property is a crime and it will not get your relationship, happiness or sanity back. It will feel good, for the moment but you could incur some financial issues, if you get caught, and the benefits of it feeling good will soon go away when you realize that he can just as easily go get the repairs done, or when you realize you have to pay for the repairs.

If you feel like you might want to deface some property go read my blog “How to get over you ex in 7 days”. It might help.

Queens are bigger than Property Damage.

Big Kiss (^_^) QueenPinky

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4 thoughts on “Property Damage!!!

  1. Way to end the post! It is unfortunate that people, in their path to loving deeper, can get really hurt, and lash out at each other. I work with couples who have domestic violence, and often times their reaction is about something that hurt them a long time ago, and their relationship(s) bring those feelings back up.

    I wanted to comment on your first post “welcome queens” but was unable to. Not sure why. It’s good you have decided to take a break, I find that all relationships upon something up inside of us. A break can be good, especially if the past relationships were not the healthiest.

    A great book that offered some interesting introspection as to why we find ourselves with the same type of people over and over again is: “Keeping the Love You Find” by Harville Hendrix (his other books seem to talk about the same topic, so any of his books are good/interesting).

    Also, taking time to Love Ourselves is a great way to heal, recover, and re-create ourselves. Congratulations!

    • I appreciate your insight!

      It does surprise me that people hurt each other in the name of love. Love doesn’t wreck cars or faces and we must remember that. I always think that people who are physical with one another where there should be love are actually mentally disturbed in one way or another. Am I way off?

      (^_^) QueenPinky

  2. so true…. i personally think we should not let someone anger up to the point of criminal activity…and that type of behavior will only prove his point of you being craz and that’s why he is not with you…move on…and find someone who will love and appreciate you…is what i always say…

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