What do women really want?
Men highly believe that what most women want out of their men is a lot. When in reality, is it really? For some reason men get this idea that women want a thug, a preppy guy, a millionaire, a chef, or even a family guy. But, if we look beyond the meaning of these words then you get something much deeper. In fact, you get something that all they have in common.
Let me break this down into what women really want.
A) A men that is loyal not only to themselves or their profession but to the one that they claim to be with. Someone that has allegiance to them and only them. Which brings me to,
B) A man that is trustworthy. If you don’t have trust in a relationship, then what do you have? Nothing. If a man can’t be trusted then what is the point of being in a relationship. Mind you that does go both ways. So, in the mind of a woman that is truly trustworthy, there is nothing called an open relationship. Why? Because at the end of it all you are still sharing your partner. It’s all cheating. Which means you can’t be trusted.
C) Honesty. A woman should never have to question what her man does or what her man is doing. Just be honest about what is going on with the life that is being lead. A man has to remember when you are in a relationship you put away the “I” for “US”. So, when the “I” gets into any trouble of some sort, it’s really “US” that is in the trouble. Reason being, going back to being loyal and trusting. When you are loyal and trusting to your partner then you can always count on them being there for you.
D) An independent man is always a winner. A car, a job, and a place of their own are ALWAYS nice but there is more to being independent. A man that can take care of themselves and not need mommy or wifey to take care of them is always a plus. That just shows that they have the will power to do it themselves. It may not always be the right route, but it does show the willingness of them taking care of themselves.
E) A man that wants you for you and not the sex. Yes, I know in our generation people look for sex as being a major role in a relationship. But, there is more to the relationship than just sex. If a woman has a partner and all he ever wants is to have sex, I’m sorry then there is a problem. Look at the woman for who they really are and not look in between their legs. A woman always has that an instinct of what is really going on with their man. So, if woman has the feeling that their man is only there for that one thing, I highly doubt that relationship is going to last.
F) Respect for their mothers. I grew up with my mother always telling me, “If a real man respects their mother then it’s a high chance that they will respect you.” The reasoning behind that is, a man will not treat you in any way that they wouldn’t want their mother to be treated by another man. Some men are known to curse, yell, and be very disobedient/ disrespectful to their mother. But, if you come across a man that won’t treat their mother like that, then it’s a good chance that they wouldn’t treat you like that. And I have seen it on both sides. So, I find that to be very true.
G) Or even a man that doesn’t have a problem showing their love. I know that love is a very strong word. But, love also is shown and not said in most cases. Having a man that doesn’t have a problem expressing their true emotions, affection, and attachment is always a plus. Just like a man who wants a woman that is a lady in the streets, and a freak in the bed. That is the same with a woman having her man show that he can take care of him, her, and them in the streets and be loving (showing the emotion, affection, and attachment) in the bed. Once again, this is one that goes both ways.
H) Friendship. My mother always told me that the best relationship is one that starts off with a strong friendship. Mainly because, when you start off as friends then you ready know for the most part what makes the other one tick.
I) To feel protected. See, most women can protect themselves. Even if it is physically or verbally. But, to feel protected by a man is much different. To have your man by your side in any situation shows that they really and truly care. My boyfriend saw my brother put his hands on me and all I had to do was just sit there and let them fight. Me being me, I had to stand my ground even if my man was there. Also, I have had my man jump into a verbal fight for me even if I was wrong. In his mind, he feels that I shouldn’t ever have to fight a battle wither i’m wrong or right.
J) A woman needs to feel like their man is really there for them. Not always just sexually, but being there emotionally, physically, and support them in any way possible. So, when your woman calls you saying that they really need you, that doesn’t mean you rush off the phone. That means you need to hear them out and listen to what it is that they have to say. Even if the advice you give them is a little to the left that shows that you were listening to what they were saying. The key point is to listen and show that you really care.
K) And last but not least, confidence. NO woman wants a man that isn’t confident in themselves or isn’t confident in their woman. To a woman that just shows a low self-esteem. That isn’t sexy to a woman. A man can be ugly on the outside, but, when they display confidence that shows that they believe in themselves and are confident in what they are doing.
As you can see, what a women really wants out of a men isn’t a lot. The way I see it, these are the same things that men want out of their women, but, we as women just experience what we want a little differently than men. The difference is men may not verbally tell you these things whereas a woman will break it down like I did above. At the same time, women don’t have an issue expressing how they really feel, where men may struggle. Among all our difference we are so much the same.
Either way, man or woman, once we understand what we want personally, we will be able to see eye to eye.
Next time we will explore the differences between a man and a woman!
:* QueenTee *: