I have broken up with almost all of my boyfriends. That makes me an expert. (? Ha ha, silly me.) I believe firmly in communication, I patient and understanding, so I think I made it easy for boyfriends to stay with me but they were wearing me out so it needed to shut down. The first few times were hard but then I became the master planner you see before you today and this is what I did. I am now friends with every ex I’ve ever had except the ones that I lost contact with…. Tight!
Please remember, everyone is different, this is just my way.
1. DO NOT BREAK UP VIA TEXT, FACEBOOK OR EMAIL! Man up and call. In person can be dangerous, depending on a persons stable or unstable mental capacity but text, email and social networks leave a lot of room for misunderstanding. the words coming out of your mouth are way more clear, even if they are not clear.
2. Know that you really want to break up: If there is Any, ANY slight twing of “Maybe we can work it out,” you are not ready. Do not even think about breaking up if you might change your mind. Changing your mind about a break up (especially in the middle of the break up conversation) will have you looking like a moron and could annoy and scare off the person you are breaking up with. If you are going to be indecisive that can give you mate strength to decide for you and you dont want that. I’ve seen it before. Make a Pros and Cons sheet to make sure that the negative out weighs the good.
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