You’re a bitch: The downfall of Women in Rap and TV

A Facebook friend posed a question:

Seriously. Not judging. But LADIES, does it bother you hearing the word, “Bi@ch” in almost every song today????

Just Curious.

That conjured up thoughts that I had been having for YEARS!

There was this song by the rapper Ludacris called “Ho” that came out in like 2008-2009 and man! I was shocked when they let him say every single Ho on the radio! I was like what?? What happened to censorship?

STOP! I do not advocate censorship.

But seriously. Ho is a derogatory word in just about every sense of the word, nowadays. 9.5 times out of 10 it is not a garden tool they talking about. This was just the beginning!

Recently, like within the last 5 years, it became cool for you to say BITCH on the radio. I faint! Again, the term is almost never used in context.

SN: What is the point in having a context if everyone ignores it. LOL. JK.

So, now, the two words most used in Rap to degrade women are perfectly allowable on the radio.

I don’t listen to the radio: A checklist by the Queen

#1: I hate commercials.

#2: I hate most DJ’s. You’re ANNOYING!

#3: I don’t want to listen to Lil Wayne, all day, literally. Or Drake. Gag.

#4: I don’t want to be degraded!

This Bitch-ho-ratchet-thot-tramp-slut thing is getting out of hand! Two of those words I didn’t even know until this year… I got back on Facebook hard for my book release (SURPRISE) and I learned all about assholes. ‘Cuse my Franch.

TV ain’t makin it no betta! The women (“grown women”) like being called bitches, call themselves bitches and hoes and act like whores and bitches and people LOVE IT! If I see one more clip of two black girls fighting over one black cock, I really will… I’m having heart palpitations… going down!

OMG I’m flat lining. Don’t revive me. I can’t live in a world where women hate themselves that much. They might try to rub off on me.

Extravagant as my reaction might be, I think, in a more philosophical tone, what I mean to say is, revive me when women start to wake up and see how disgusting, they and the men are who degrade them.

I have already made a vow: “If my daughter asks me to watch MTV, BET or VH1 (in some cases), I will say no. I am fully willing to fight a child should there be any debate or name calling.” The only clause in this vow is Black Girls Rock and documentaries. Some, I repeat, SOME music videos will be allowed but it depends on the song, the artist and the content of the video. I know I can’t keep her from everything, but I’LL TRY! On top of that, she loves to dance so I want her to see the latest dance moves and all that.

I’ll also use music videos as life lessons. like “If I ever see you doing THAT I will embarrass you so bad in public, you’ll wanna go live with unknown aunts or uncles.”

In Other Words: I’m gonna be CLOSELY monitoring all interactions with the TV, like the Government does us now…

SN: My daughter does not listen to new school rap. She appreciates HIP HOP (which is not rap… by the way. Article Coming Soon.) She’s 6, but there are some 6 year olds who are very rap literate, so don’t act like she couldn’t be rap literate. What the hell is a Lil Boosie anyway? My daughter, basically listens to everything except mainstream rap. I will introduce her to Tupac, Biggie, Public Enemy etc. when she is old enough to not repeat everything she hears, to her teacher.

My daughter is diverse and could sing and dance to anything from Hall and Oates to Pat Benatar to Beyonce to Cody Simpson. She also likes Jazz and International music.

So back to the point… This stuff is ruining our female children! Haven’t you all seen enough twerking videos and toddlers poppin it? Isn’t the joke over now?

I will have a whole ‘nother article on Reality TV and why I think it is poisoning us, even in passing, but I’ll touch on it briefly here because its on topic. Reality TV is so fake, first of all, but to our young ladies, it is very real. They don’t all necessarily have the capacity to understand how wrong this stuff is. They don’t know how disrespectful it is to their eyes and mind because they are flooded with these images and words on the radio and TV. “Anything on TV must be right!” “Anything that glitters IS gold!” STOP THE MADNESS.

SN: When I was younger, I referred to myself and my home girls as bitches. Down ass bitches, hood bitches, the realest bitches… Jade was the first one to stop that train and as I got older I stopped it on my own. Don’t let our girls figure this out on their own when they become adults. Be proactive in your girls life.

10 steps to keeping our girls from being bitches: Do this early and often.

  1. Teach them self worth!
  2. Train their self esteem with positive and appropriate encouragement.
  3. Teach them what love really is and LOVE THEM!
  4. Teach them that their body is personal and precious.
  5. Teach them to be nice, respectful, giving, caring and be beautiful inside.
  6. Teach them not to seek revenge. Nothing is worse than a vengeful woman! They call that a bitch…
  7. Teach them values and to be morally upstanding.
  8. Tell them they a beautiful no matter what! Acne, bad hair day, braces, messed up outfit means nothing!
  9. Don’t fill their heads with images that DO NOT UPLIFT THEM as women!
  10. Encourage things that will make them better OVERALL, not just things that will get them material and immoral possessions.

Save our Girls!

 PS: Stop calling men bitches too. Article coming soon.

Love, Queen

I missed this!

Oh man!

First thing I wanna say: sucks! LOL. I just went through hell to get my password back and there is no way for me to email anybody! Turns out they wanted me to use my email address, not my user name, to log in… Suckers.

Second thing: OMG I missed this place. I’m changing it up though. Well, maybe not. LOL. I’m turning this place into my diary. I’m also going to post WAY MORE. Whenever I have something going on, I’m gonna post it.

One thing will remain the same, I will connect with everyone I used to talk to, if I can. Let’s face it, the blog-isphere is readily changing. So, boom. What can ya do?

Lots of reblogs too so keep it tight folks!



Literary Work Review

I have been diligently working as a writer for sometime now and I have some work published! Yay me! I have links to my work here, please take some time to read my work —>

This is an email I got from a writer that I asked to read my work. I thought it was a great assessment of my writing so I wanted to share. If you have anything to say about my work after reading it, please post a comment here and I will use these reviews on my profile.

Thanks for your support!!!

Hi Tiffany

A big thank you for pointing me in the direction of your stories. I just finished reading three of your pieces and wanted to get some thoughts to you while your words are buzzing fresh round my mind. I like the way that you cover very different ground in all three, but with such an individual voice that the stories feel related – like different aspects of a single, recognizable world. You’re creating a landscape here so it becomes easy to imagine that all three of these stories could take place in the same town.

What struck me most about Puff is how it reads like the first page of a longer work. There are so many details here from which other stories could branch off. The way Nya shields her cigarette right at the start – she’s used to smoking outdoors, maybe hurriedly and in secret. The damaged wall – a lot of good stories begin by throwing in a seemingly unimportant detail at the outset that turns out to be very important later on. How did that wall get damaged, how does Nya get linked in to what happened. There are other examples here which make the piece feel like it could grow into something bigger – the trash: maybe Nya gets pissed at people littering round her apartment and waits up one night to catch whoever does it. The boy on his bike – where’s he going and why turquoise? I did love that line about the kids getting joy from wearing down their shoes – yeah of course because they’re running and tagging. But the reader knows their parents won’t feel so joyful about having to get new shoes, which is what makes it a good twist around of an expected situation.

You can see what I mean – these are elements of a bigger environment around Nya and Jeremy and I think what you’ve got here is an intriguing opening to a novel, as much as a story in its own right.

Because I’m an obsessive there’s a few nit-picky things bugged me a little. Something I always have to watch out for is tripping myself up with contradiction – that trash under the window, it’s colorful but the brown papers are dingy. Someone like me would think those two words don’t gel. At the shoot, it surely is bad when some crazy bitch throws water on you but, well, it’s water. What if it was some juice that stained and ruined Nya’s t-shirt and she had to find something else to wear home. Then she could be really angry. Another plot point you could develop if you wanted is that Nya burns her nose with smoke. Well, I guess that her boyfriend’s cologne straight after would probably make her sore nose sting. So she’s really pleased to see him, but it hurts – the start of trouble maybe… You could just take this story on and on.

A Slave to Her on the other hand couldn’t I think be expanded at all because it’s just right as it is. It’s such a sweet succession of moments, and the repetitions give a great sense that these people are doing the same things day on day, maybe not liking their jobs so much, but it’s routine and repetition brings them together. 11:35 is someplace to begin and from there you feel they could go anywhere. “I am a slave to her absence” is a great line and I love Todd’s lack of push – he wants to ask Gia out but until he can he’ll enjoy what he has. Really sweet.

Newsworthy is interesting and works in ways that maybe you didn’t intend at the outset. I think maybe the first three pages could do with a little more work to make the opening a bit more punchy – this is probably wholly the wrong thing to say but the female friends at the start do spend a lot of words talking. Tina’s father is portrayed as a monster yet he seems to give up easily – he leaves in shame but almost I thought too placidly. And Adrian does seem a tad uncurious about who killed her husband.

It’s in the second half that the story catches light, with the action moving faster and the focus on Ms Tina and her two pound flogger – what a great detail: not just any flogger, a two pound one! From her opinion that no single woman can live in the city without a gun we know that she’s a bit special and it would be a fine thing to know what she’s doing with the BDSM gear. Does she supplement her teacher paycheck? Her irritation at the dumbass blackmailer got me cheering so of course I didn’t want her to die – I wanted her to kill the pipsqueak and go on to leave a path of destruction. The payoff line is good though, and again there’s some great phrasing: Joe’s bald spot “made his aerial view look like a swimming pool”, I can see that exactly! The line about staying on top of the story and on top of the interns is a snappy wisecrack crying out to be used in dialogue. Maybe Joe’s death and the final fight could take a bit more muscle in the writing – Tina wants to kill Joe, and she doesn’t want to die, and I’d guess she’s not lacking in strength or determination. That could come through a little more. Writing one on one violence is more difficult than it seems – I’m not so great at it.

It’s always kinda hard I find looking at other people’s stories because I start to rewrite how I want to see things, so please don’t take any offense at any of my ham-fisted attempts at critique. I really enjoyed these and think you should aim on some longer work if you want to. And definitely don’t let the day job get in the way – keep writing.

Thanks again and all the best

Mark Wagstaff is a GREAT author himself, visit his website to read his work —>

Big Kiss (^_^) QueenPinky

Old People Need Health Care

I woke up this morning with a thought.

Why does healthcare cost so much?

Then I thought: It’s because doctors charge an arm and a leg for their services.

Then I thought: Forget about us young folks, why do the old people need to pay so much for healthcare? Can’t the doctors cut them some slack?

I don’t know if I talked about money with you guys before but I hate it. Plain and simple. People put prices on things based on what THEY think it should cost. All the way down to the parts that make something…. Let me explain….

A person sells rubber. Its just rubber, in its basic form, could be used for anything. This person only had to GET the rubber. They did not have to invent it. AND EVEN IF THEY DID! What should it cost? That person gets to decide! If they want to, they can charge less for it. They can shave profits to make it affordable. Continue reading

Every little bit helps….

I have been dieting and exercising lately. A lot more than ever!

Here is my video diary of the progress… Don’t say anything about that crazy screen shot! lol

There are 3 other videos besides this one, but I have not continued my journal because I have been super busy….

I would like to share some tips that are little, very insignificant things you can do to trim down. These tips will not turn you into a model (even though we all know any woman can be a model regardless of size) but they will help you start to make healthy changes.

1. Cut off the soda! To much sugar. You will lose a couple of pounds just by cutting the soda and drinking 100% fruit juices and water.
2. Share desert! If you go out with a friend and you just have to have that cheesecake, split it.

3. Cut back on meat! Not protein, meat. There are lots of healthy ways to get protein, which is what our bodies need. Our bodies do not really NEED MEAT. No where on the nutrition guidelines does it say that you need a good supply of meat in your diet, it says PROTEIN. When I went vegetarian, I lost 15 pounds in a month. Why? Because my bowels were able to breath! Meat sticks around in your body longer than anything else. Cut back and stick to lean meats.

4. Bake don’t fry! Fried food is a killer, everything that can be fried, can be baked, look it up.

5. Check the food pyramid! Knowledge is power! will give you all the details you need about eating healthy! It will even tell you how many calories you need in a day. Get familiar with it.

In closing, my Queens, There is no harm in starting small. A small start is still a start.

Big Kiss (^_^) QueenPinky